Wednesday, October 29, 2008

My Buddy, Jim

Jim is a friend of mine that I have known for over 10 years. We met one another at my favorite bar, "SV", and shared many of the same fine 'guy' qualities.

Jim comes in to the bar everyday and sits at the bar with the rest of 'the group'. Real good sense of humor and can 'give shit' as well as he takes it, a quality sorely lacking in most people.

We talk about sports all the time and Jim has always deferred to me regarding baseball, seeing that I am the resident 'expert' ;) We talked politics but Jim showed way more passion for this than me. I deferred to him on this subject. Oh, we also talked about boobs........duh.

Jim owned a small printing business and was very sucessful. As he got older, he cut his hours back some but still worked everyday and was very active.

He had a rough time with cancer a few years back and there was concern that he wouldn't make it..............but he did.

Jim has 4 daughters and he put every one of them through private schools and saw to it that they all got their degree's (as he put it 'I don't want them being dependent on a guy for their self-worth')

Talked to him before I left "SV" Monday afternoon and we both agreed that the Phillies were going to win the World Series.

Jim died yesterday of an apparent heart attack, at work, at his desk.

I'm sure going to miss him.

11 comments:

tryingtofigureitout said...

I am very sorry for the loss of your friend.

The Girl You Don't Bring Home to Momma said...

Words cannot begin to express my sorrow for the loss of your friend. I'm so very very very sorry. With him looking over my Phillies tonight we are sure to win.

I wish I could hug you right now
XXXOOOO - sending you my love.

Evil Twin's Wife said...

Wow. That's really awful and I'm so sorry for your loss.

Suzie said...

Efen,
I am so sorry you lost your friend.
You and Jim are in my prayers...it's soooo hard losing someone you love...
I wish I could give ya a big HUG
right now....

Bucky said...

Not even getting to tell your friends and family goodbye is no way to go.

My condolences.

Laura said...

I'm so sorry, honey.

I'm first in line to attest that those who can truly call you 'friend' are blessed indeed. You two sounded like kindred spirits.

Love you.

Efen said...

To All: I really appreciate your kind words....they do mean more to me than I can fully express....and I thank you for that.

I am numbed by this and frankly, a little surprised, that it has hit so hard.

You just take so many things for granted...that those you consider friends are just going to remain part of your life...you don't even give it a second thought.

'The Bar' today was extremely somber, as expected. Some of 'the group' didn't show and I fully understand that. I almost didn't but knew that wouldn't change a thing. Now, I sorta wished I hadn't gone. Just not the same, ya know.....won't be for awhile anyway.

The Kitchen said...

Oh Efen, I'm so sorry. It's sad to loose a friend or a loved one. Sending you hugs - take it easy.
XOXOXO

The Girl You Don't Bring Home to Momma said...

Your friend would have appreciated you going today and continuing on with your life. I've always believed that we should celebrate a life as opposed to mourning it. Life is precious, we must never take any day for granted.

Love you !!!!

Warped Mind of Ron said...

So sorry about your loss and the families loss. Good friends are precious thing and they don't come around every day. Mourning is natural, but when that eases up a bit do something that you know he would have liked to honor his memory.

Jenny Fabulous said...

While I have never met either one of you guys, my heart is broken. Warm thoughts to you and to Jim's family.